WHO I AM
Hello! Thanks for taking the time to get to know a little about me. I am a forty-something year old woman that decided to follow her heart. I lived a life of practicality and responsibility and believed others knew better than I did what was best for me.
A couple of years ago that started to change. I quit a miserable job thinking I'd just get another, but couldn't bring myself to do it. I hired a coach to help me figure out what it really was that I wanted to do.
I have always loved people and supporting them. Friends, family and co-workers would always come to me when they needed an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on and some perspective without judgement. I felt so honored that they shared such personal stories, feelings and experiences with me. While it seemed a little crazy to me at the time, creating a career of coaching is my calling. It's putting all the gifts God blessed me with to the best use.
So why Relationship and Intimacy Coaching?
I've been through it all when it comes to relationships. I've been married and divorced..not once, but twice. I got pregnant, THEN got married at 21. It was toxic and abusive (and remained that way even after the divorce until my oldest son turned 18). I knew it wasn't safe for my son and me so I left him at 23 yrs old. I learned so much from that marriage, but the second one still ended. My second ex-husband came home from a conference a week before my youngest turned one and said he wanted a divorce. To this day, 10 years later, I didn't see it coming. Despite counseling, we couldn't make it work. Ultimately, it was a gift because he no longer loved me and I deserve to be loved. We have a great relationship and do a great job co-parenting our two children. While so difficult to have to share my children, it actually was such a blessing! I really never had time to myself, to learn about me and what I actually wanted in life and in a relationship.
I spent five years in my mid-thirties dating...a LOT. Happy to share details and funny stories, but the point is that I really learned so much about myself and what actually matters to me in a romantic relationship.
All of those experiences led me to Austin. We dated for a year and although he was madly in love with yours truly, I broke it off because it wasn't "perfect" and darn it, I was not about to settle! However, instead of getting over him, I missed him more and more. About 10 months later I realized I'd like another chance and he gave it to me. The rest is history. We bought a home together and merged our families (5 kids, 2 dogs and 1 cat) pretty successfully, if I do say so, but it certainly required lots of patience and tons of love. We work on our relationship every day. It's certainly not perfect, but I've learned that's not the goal.
The goals are unconditional love, support, friendship, fun, teamwork, adventure and emotional and physical intimacy that you can't imagine with anyone else. That's what I love helping others create, re-ignite and re-invent! We get so caught up in the day-to-day responsibilities of work, care taking of others, chores and everything else life throws our way, we often put our relationship on the back burner, taking that other person for granted. But it creates disconnection, loneliness, lack of intimacy and even feeling like you don't know the person next to you. You've grown and changed over the years, and so has your partner, so rather than trying to fix your relationship, why not reinvent it? Re-ignite it?! Have FUN with it! The last things anyone needs is another "to-do" on their list.
Intrigued? Curious? Wondering how you can create a relationship with yourself AND with your significant other that lights you up, gets you excited, feels like home? I invite you to connect with me so I can learn how I can support you in creating the life and love that you deserve to have!