For Love of You Coaching
Relationship & Intimacy Coaching
We love being in a relationship….until we don’t.
We love all the feelings that come with being newly in love. We love the flirting, the affection, the play, the silliness, the adventure, and of course…the sex!
It’s all so new and exciting.
And then somewhere along the way, responsibilities take priority. The kids, the aging parents, the careers, the house chores.
So tired. Conversations are about logistics of life and what’s for dinner. Maybe throw in a "Netflix and Chill" night every couple of weeks.
Missing the flirting? The affection? The deep conversations? The connection?
Is this you? Maybe you’re in a place that is a little better or a little worse than that, but probably not too far from the mark.
What happened??? Life happened. Guess what? Life happens to all of us.
Of course you want it back! The flirting, the affection, the fun, the play, the deep connection and long conversations about what’s on your heart. You want ALL of it back!
So if it feels so wonderful, why is it so hard to get back? I bet you tried doing what you did when you first had those feelings but my hunch is it didn’t really work or at least not for long.
Can I let you in on a secret or two?
The first secret is that you’ve changed. Your partner has changed. Life has changed. If it’s all changed, doing what you used to do isn't going to get what you used to get!
OK, Sister! Let’s get it back. Hey, let’s go BIG! Let’s not just get it back. Let’s make it BETTER!!
Let’s dig deep to figure out what it is you REALLY need, want and desire NOW and go get it - not just from your relationship with your partner, but also with your relationship with YOU!
Here's the other secret: This has more to do with your relationship with YOU than it does with your partner. When you have a great relationship with yourself, your relationship with your partner will automatically improve. Win-Win!!
Let's make it FUN first! No one needs another thing added to their to-do list.
Let’s Reignite Your Relationship! Let’s Reconnect Your Relationship! Let’s Reinvent Your Relationship!
Have fun! Bring play, silliness, quality time, affection, flirting and sex back into the relationship! Find and do things that bring you enjoyment. (Don’t worry, I help you figure out what this looks like for you!)
Once you've reignited, you've set the groundwork for deeper conversations, for opening your heart and growing your intimacy with each other.
You are always changing. Life circumstances are always changing. While you might want the feelings back you had when you first met (which is OK!) you are are a different person, so your relationship wants, needs and desires are most likely different as well. Reinvent your relationship to make it what you want, need and desire NOW.
A thought or two about sex. . .
We all deserve a romantic relationship that fulfills all our needs - someone to share all of the highs and lows, joys and struggles that we experience throughout our lives. A special benefit of that commitment is an intimate relationship with that person. I use the word Intimacy very intentionally. Anyone can have sex with anyone at any time. But being intimate with someone is more than sex; it's openness, honesty, vulnerability, feeling worthy and desired, unconditional love.
When we practice intimacy, it creates opportunities for more fun, play, connection, adventure both in and out of the proverbial bedroom. However, intimacy inside the bedroom doesn't wait for intimacy outside to be perfect, or vice versa. Intimacy needs to be practiced inside AND outside of the bedroom at the same time.
I'm here to help you figure out what it is you want, need and desire. I'm here to help open up the conversations, to support you in creating that piece of your relationship that means so much more than most people want to admit.